Friday, December 09, 2016

Life in the Forties continues

Life moved very slowly and people had nothing to do except looking after their agricultural operations, if any,during the day..By 8 pm all people in the village would go  to sleep and the only sounds in the village  would be that produced by the crickets in the fields  and the cries of huge birds like owls, vultures .etc. living on the top of the trees.. These sounds used to be scary  making the children to fear death and ghosts. .Despite this, we  used to sit on the window sills of our bedrooms in the nights, looking at  the soft moonlight falling through the bamboo trees and hearing the  reading of Ramayana by an elderly woman, our neighbour   .. We were accustomed to fall into sleep hearing  her  Ramayana recitation.
 A maid servant used to come  in the night when father would be away   as mother wanted a female companion, being afraid of remaining alone  in a big house with small children. The people had practically no entertainment   and so when the grocery shop owner of the village bought  a radio for the first time , it was a great news and people rushed to his shop    to hear the songs and news from All India Radio.
Come rainy season and the whole village used to be full of water in all low lying areas,in the tanks, in the wells and in the rivulet(thodu)and in the paddy fields. .It was the time for we children to make paper boats and play in the thodu. and lots of newspaper used to be wasted for the purpose. for which I used to get scolding from father..
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 We used to have only wooden palm leaf umbrellas  for the rains and black cotton cloth steel umbrellas were rare then.Only father had one,a sun brand umbrella manufactured  at calicut( probably by seth purushothamdas&co.., I think).
..When darkness fell ,  lot of insects(iyyam patta) appeared  from nowhere and it was necessary to close all  the doors and windows early in the evenings  The frogs would be croaking in a rhythmic manner in the paddy fields and   fireflies  would be  flying over the  bushes and the trees, very beautiful thing to see and enjoy.We used to catch a little fire fly and cover it with glass so that we could see how the fire fly moved around inside the glass..

 Strange it may seem now ,we were using at home a kaupin only as dress  till the age of 3or 4 and thereafter a kaupin and a small bath towel(thorth)  to cover the groins..Trousers(shorts) and shirts were the  dress for going to school and to far of places like Pattambi and Thrissur..For going to temple, however, we were allowed small mundu(cloth) with golden colored linings(kasavu mundu), given usually  during onam fesival days..

.After coming from  school it was the rule that we should take bath without which we were neither allowed to enter the kitchen nor allowed to touch other members of the family..So immediately on arrival  from school we all would run to the tank of our house(it was a big tank) and jump into the water.Soap was  rarely given and if at all given,  used to be lifebuoy, a soap red in colour, having  no scent at all.. We found that in big families having several children this type of soaps only were given to  children, soaps like mysore sandal, rexona, lux  were given to elders who were more careful in handling soap  while taking bath in the tanks...If we take oil bath we were not supposed to use any soap but only vaka powder(powder of bark of vaka trees available in the forest) to remove oil from the body and thali juice (juice of a herbal plant, kurumthotti)from the hair.Brush for cleaning the teeth was unknown to us and we used our index finger as brush   and umi kkari(burnt chaff of rice grains powdered with salt) for cleaning the teeth,and mango leaf. for cleaning the tongue.
 .We used to keep a tuft in the head insisted by father who used to say that being the grandsons of a  somayaji( person who had performed somayaga according to vedic rites) we should keep up our traditions and follow the orthodox customs of Hindu brahmins.We never used any comb or perfume.for hair dressing. . The tuft was removed  when we finally  moved to Thrissur(Thrissiva perur as was then known)  as  people there  stopped such practices due to modern ideas and even used to make fun of boys having tuft coming from remote village(kugramam).

As children  we would be  waiting for  the monthly poojas to be performed on the first  Tuesday or the first friday of the malayalam calendar ..These poojas used to be  performed by father-- .in the morning Ganapathy homam and in the evening Bhagavathy seva on the same day.  We would be given as prasadams, dry coconut pieces and jaggery after the Ganapathy homam,  and rice- jaggery neipayasam  after the evening  Bagavathy seva.The other poojas conducted  were onam pooja  to thrikkakara appan,  vinayaka chathurthy pooja to  ganapathy. both performed. by mother and    several poojas  performed by  father during the last three  days of nava rathri to Durga, Lakshmi and Saraswathy..Our main attraction for these poojas used to be the various prasadams(like ada, neipayasam, thrimadhuram, malar and jaggery, appam etc.) distributed after the poojas .On ekadasi days we children were  given the special dish only a little though we wanted to eat more of it being very delicious.Same was the case with other vrathams also'.Father used to chant vishnu sahasranamam aloud on all ekadasi days nights and we were allowed  dinner only after the chanting was over..We would , therefore, be waiting to hear the last words "Sarva praharanayudha" to rush to the dining room floor. for food.

Birthdays(annual birthdays) used to be celebrated  meticulously by the mother for all of us.On the birthday we should get up early in the morning, take bath(oil bath was prohibited on that day) go to the temple wearing   a newly washed  mundu and also taking  an uruli, rice, fire wood and also a small pot of gingely oil for oil lamp for the deity. The uruli with rice and firewood would be given to the poojari (namboodiri)for making payasam  as neivedyam..After the poojas, it took pretty long time and we used to be impatient,. the neivedyam would be given in the uruli  to be brought  home duly covered with plantain leaf so that no impurities fall on the neivedyam on the way.Now a days you could book neivedyam on the previous day by  paying the approved rate and there is no need to carry firewood, ghee etc to the temple.The neivedyam would be given in plastic bottle or plantain leaf packets in many temples, if we do not have our own vessel. How days have changed for the better for the temple goers..

.It was the custom that while sitting for the feast of the birthday, on the left of the boy( whose birthday was being celebrated) his close friend should be seated and on the right side, boy's brother or sister .. .An oil lamp would be lighted and a small plantain leaf ( thoosan ila--tapering plantain leaf )would be placed before the lamp.On this leaf all items prepared for the feast would be kept and the mother  would offer it to Ganapathy by chanting a mantra ....Afterwards she would stand behind the boy.,offer prayers to the family deities(bhagavathy), shiva, and krishna, and would place a bunch of flowers known as dasapushpams on the head. of the boy  for his long and healthy life ..  Unlike other days, food would be served on plantain leaf  and not in porcelain plates .There was no system of birthday greetings or birthday presents then.and I never got any birthday present  in my childhood.We were prohibited to tell our age to anybody on the birthday, even if specifically asked, as it  was believed  that telling  the age on birthday would shorten  life

Monday, December 05, 2016

What Amma said this Sunday----PRARABDHAM

People generally  ask why I am suffering though I have not  committed any sin knowingly during this birth.
Amma says that it is due to the sins committed during the earlier births that we suffer in this birth..When we start experiencing the results of actions of our previous births, we call it prarabdham. Such prarabdhams may give  painful experience or  pleasurable experience, painful experience for the sins committed(bad prarabdham) and pleasurable experience for the virtuous action done(good prarabdham)

The sufferings due to the bad prarabdham   come under three categories.
1.Sufferings that can be easily removed  such as diseases that can be cured completely by medicines etc.
2.Sufferings that can be  removed but with great difficulty such as diseases that  can be cured only by operations etc   With dana dharma(charity),virtuous deeds and prayers to the Almighty these sufferings  can also be removed
3The third category of sufferings( due to commission of grave sins) can not be removed by any of the above methods  and the person has  compulsorily to  undergo the sufferings physically and mentally. It is like the disease that comes back again even after operation

We should not worry about the sins already committed in earlier births because what was done can not be undone now.What we have to do is to  do good deeds now(Amma says we have got  the present moment  only to work)with fortitude and the result will definitely come presently or at a future date.as all actions invariably bring forth good or bad results.We should always work thinking of the Almighty and surrendering  our work and its results to Him..This way the intensity of the sufferings can be mitigated and we can move forward in life. Only work(action) can save us, the selfish deeds bind us and the virtuous deeds dedicated to Almighty liberate us from the cycle of all sufferings
Amma here gives a small story.Once a traveller who was passing through a dense forest was attacked by robbers and they took all his monies and valuables and  pushed him into a nearby well after binding him with a rope.The poor man, completely helpless, started crying   aloud. from the depth of the well. .. After some time a passer- by heard the cry and he saw the man struggling in the well.He had a rope with him and  immediately threw  it into the well to enable the man to come out and thus saved him..This man was bound by a rope as a punishment and was saved by a rope.All our actions are like this rope, it can bind us or it can save us.
Life may present with difficulties and problems based on the past actions but we should face it with courage and fortitude and make the obstacles  stepping stones for success and growth.  For  this discriminating intelligence based on spirituality is a must.

The above is only  the essence of what Amma said and not a verbatim translation.See how Amma has indirectly answered the big question" why bad people prosper in life and good people undergo suffering"and suggested a way out .